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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(It's nice to meet you.)
The entertainer who is always full of energy, Boom!
- Hello. It's nice to meet you. - "I'm Boom."
I'm Enter, Enter, Entertainer Boom! It's nice to meet you.
(Imitating a ship horn sound)
Why did you imitate a ship horn sound?
It was to boost up my energy.
Jung Chae Yeon and Ye Bin of DIA!
(Jung Chae Yeon and Ye Bin of DIA)
(A ship horn sound! Energy up!)
This newlywed couple have been married only for three months.
The wife is 11 years older than her husband.
Lee Sagan and Ron!
(Lee Sagan and Ron)
They have an 11-year age gap.
Ron was born during the school winter break...
when Sagan was in third grade.
- When she was in third grade. - Right.
It's true. Precisely.
Right. That's correct.
- She was in third grade. - That's accurately correct.
Ron and Sagan seem so loving and sweet...
as they've been married only for three months.
- You don't have any worries, right? - I don't think they do.
We're happy right now, but soon...
- he'll enlist in the military. - Congratulations.
- Congratulations. - He'll enlist in the military.
(Applauding)
- Congratulations. - What's wrong with you?
Her husband is going to enlist in the military.
They were holding each other's hand tightly backstage...
- That's right. - and took pictures together.
It was so good to see.
Do you two always hold hands like that?
- Of course... - We hold hands often.
They're holding hands right now. And since he'll enlist soon,
he tore his pants so she could touch his knee.
- On purpose? - Yes.
- The skin on the knees are soft. - That's right.
- It feels warm too. - Right.
Chae Yeon and Ye Bin, what do you think about an 11-year age gap?
My younger brother is 13 years younger than me.
You can imagine that you date someone around his age.
(Dating someone around his age would be so weird.)
- Is he 10 years old now? - Yes, he's 10.
- Be good to his friends. - Right.
(You never know what tomorrow holds.)
- You never know. - Exactly.
- Of course. - In my case,
I don't care about an age gap. I'm of marriageable age.
- As long as she can do a windmill, - A windmill?
- A windmill? - I wouldn't... That's right.
- I wouldn't mind the age gap. - How big of an age gap...
- is acceptable? - 10 years.
- 10 years? - I wouldn't have a problem with it.
Chae Yeon and Ye Bin, do you have any difficulties...
because of your public images that are different...
from how you really are in real life?
People always see me smile quietly on TV.
- You seem sweet and innocent. - Yes. That's how people see me.
So when they see me acting down-to-earth or chatty,
they get taken aback.
I usually don't act cute.
But my fans ask me to act cute in front of them.
- That's hard. - How is she in real life?
Sometimes we find a bug in the house we all live in.
- When we see a cockroach, - A cockroach.
we call Ye Bin. "Ye Bin!"
She asks where it is and catches it with her bare hand.
- With her bare hand? - Yes.
- She's strong. - Does she catch it alive?
- But it would burst. - I can just throw it away.
Like this?
She's down-to-earth.
I heard that DIA's new song is amazing.
Yes. We made our comeback with the song, "WOOWA".
- "WOOWA"? - Yes.
Please show us a little bit. Come forward.
Let's get it.
("WOOWA" by DIA)
(Cheery and bubbly)
(The perfect synchronized dance and addictive melody)
(Hey, DJ! Pump this party!)
(Woowa, woowa, woowa)
- Great! - That was amazing.
(It's so exciting!)
- Good job. - Guys!
There's a cockroach here. Come and catch it.
(She gets rid of it with her bare hand.)
We have three stories.
Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
The first keyword is "Two-faced Husband".
"Please Apologize Publicly".
"Hold Your Head High".
"Two-faced Husband".
Hello.
I'm a housewife in my 40s, and I have 3 sons...
who are 2, 9, and 11 years old.
My husband is a very strict dad...
to the children.
However, he's strict only with our eldest son.
(Only with their eldest son)
Not all his three sons, but only his eldest son.
- I wonder why. - He's strict only with one child.
- Does he discriminate his children? - My husband...
"Hang on. Where did the remote control go?"
"Eldest Son, you took it, right?"
"No... No, I didn't."
He suspects the kid for no reason.
Their second son says, "Dad."
"It was me. I took it."
"Oh, did you?"
"My sweet second son wanted to watch TV?"
"Good job."
- Their first son must be sad. - "What are you looking at?"
"Eldest Son, go clean your room!"
He's so affectionate to our second son,
but he's so mean to our first son.
- "Honey." - "Honey"?
(Oh, right. Was she my wife?)
I'm your wife who is 20 years older than you.
- Yes, honey. - Good.
"Honey."
"Can't you adore our eldest son just as you do our second son?"
"Our second son is more adorable. What do you want me to do?"
"Stop nagging at me already."
"This is all our eldest son's fault."
"Eldest Son, come over here. Come here right now!"
My husband hurts our son's feelings. What should I do about this?
That's all.
(No more discriminating against the eldest son!)
He discriminates against his eldest son.
We only read the letter, but everyone in the audience...
already looks so upset.
(I feel so frustrated already!)
- What do you think, Sagan? - Well...
Can't you guys stop holding hands?
Why would you say that so angrily?
- It's okay. - Keep holding hands.
- Those are your hands. - Lace each other's fingers.
Stop holding hands...
Since my younger brother is much younger than me...
Since my parents had him late, they're very affectionate to him.
I feel sad even though I'm much older than him.
Even though you're much older than him?
Then let's bring our guest out now.
Ma'am, please come out.
(Who is worried about her husband who is cold towards his eldest son?)
(Kim Hye Jin)
(Welcome.)
So your husband discriminates against your eldest son...
- and prefers your second son? - That's correct.
He calls our eldest son like this.
"Hey. Hey. Hey!"
- He doesn't even call his name? - "Hey."
- No. - He calls him "Hey"?
But he calls our second son "Yul. Donman."
He calls his nicknames.
He also gave only our second son an allowance secretly many times.
My goodness. Since when did he start treating him like that?
I'm curious about it. Before your second son was born,
your eldest son must've been loved by your husband.
- Not as much as our second son. - I see.
But he changed his diapers, played with him,
- and fed him often. - Yes.
After our second son was born, the situation got worse.
- After your second son was born? - Right.
He changed after that.
Why does he discriminate against your eldest son?
He says it's because our eldest son has his weaknesses.
He looks like his dad and acts thoughtlessly just like his dad.
He takes after his dad.
Don't dads become more affectionate to a child who takes after them?
He says he hates that our eldest son takes after him.
- He's not happy about it. - That's right.
I have only one son.
And he looks just like me.
He started middle school this year, so he needs to make new friends.
One day, a girl in his class came up to him and said,
"Hey. You look just like the man on Hello."
Really? Is that true?
It's a true story.
How did your son react?
He didn't tell her that he's my son.
He has the weaknesses I have.
He feels like my other self,
- which makes me more affectionate. - Exactly.
I think my husband hates our eldest son for no reason.
- That can't be true. - No way.
- That's ridiculous. - He's his own child.
When he can't find things... Our second son always...
holds the remote control.
When my husband can't find the remote control,
he suspects our eldest son. "Hey, bring it here."
He just says that without even thinking.
The fact that he holds it means that he's first in rank.
Seeing that the second son always holds the remote control,
he's in a high position in his family.
- That's right. - He's right.
Other than the remote control,
are there any other examples?
- While eating, - Yes?
both of them spill food, my husband says to our eldest son,
"You punk, why do you still spill food at your age?"
(He must be so upset.)
Our second child also spills food while running around the house.
But my husband doesn't scold him.
Even when they're eating together...
Doesn't your husband spill food?
- I think he also does that. - I spill food too.
I think he spills a lot of food.
(He gets scolded by me.)
How do your 1st and 2nd sons get along?
My eldest son talks to my second son so angrily.
- Of course. - He also yells at him.
Sometimes when my second son doesn't listen to him,
he even hits him.
When children fall down while running around,
their parents ask if they're okay. But my husband says,
"Hey. I knew it."
"I knew you were going to fall." He yells at our son.
Our son became timid.
Even when he falls, and it hurts, he can't cry.
- He got scratches on his face. - He tiptoes around his dad.
- Yes. - Did that really happen?
Yes. He got scratches all over his face.
But he said it didn't hurt when I asked if he was okay.
He was scared he might be scolded.
I was very upset that day. So...
(She's upset that her son became intimidated.)
I was really upset.
In fact, you sent us your story in 2014, right?
- Yes. About 5 years ago. - Yes, it was 5 years ago.
You didn't know our show would last so long, did you?
Why did you send us a letter back then?
Back then, the situation was so serious.
- Now... - It was even more serious?
It has become part of our daily lives.
- You've gotten used to it. - Yes.
- Our kids are growing up, - You couldn't leave it as it is.
and they'll go through puberty.
- I thought it'd get worse. - Right.
- I'm glad you're here. - Yes.
Let's find out why her husband discriminates against his son.
- Let's meet her husband. - Okay.
I'm not sure how I should address him. Should I call him "Hey"?
(Should I call him "Hey"?)
- Maybe you should. - I mean, he swears...
at his own son.
- We should treat him the same way. - That's right.
Dong Yeob, can you call him?
(Hesitating)
- I have to save myself. - All right.
- Hello. - Hello.
What was that? Don't be a coward.
Hello, you punk.
(Who is the dad who prefers his second son?)
Let's talk to him.
I'm sure the viewers wouldn't understand...
why you treat him like that either.
What's the reason?
In fact, he has...
the things about me that I hate the most.
So I don't like him so much.
But you're supposed to embrace him...
and help him fix his problems as his father.
In fact, I missed the time to fix his problems.
- I think it's too late now. - Now is the right time.
- Hold on a second. - Have you given up on your son?
Hang on.
You said you don't like him because he has your weaknesses.
What are those weaknesses?
First of all,
he tends to act thoughtlessly.
(He acts thoughtlessly.)
He doesn't look back or look around.
He just thinks of only himself. He's selfish.
Then is your second son thoughtful?
Does he think carefully and look around?
Exactly. She has a point.
- It would be fair. - That's right?
No. He's the same.
- Then why... - In fact, my second son is worse.
- Is your second son worse? - Yes.
- So it can't be the reason. - He lacks consistency.
That's right.
In fact, I don't give much love to my eldest son.
- However, the first word... - Yes.
that my second son said...
Most children say "Mom" first, right?
But my second son said "Dad" first.
- Just because that... - Is that the reason?
- That's not the only reason. - He said "Dad" first.
- He's upset at his eldest son. - In fact,
- I had a physically hard job. - His eldest son said "Mom" first.
When I came home after a long day feeling tired,
my eldest son was causing trouble,
but my second son welcomed me with an adorable face.
He came out saying "Peekaboo" while hiding.
And it cheered me up.
Although I know I shouldn't treat them differently,
but I can't help it.
Also, when they spill food while eating,
you scold only your eldest son.
My eldest son makes a mess when he eats food.
And this might sound mean, but he sounds like a pig grunting.
Like this.
I always tell him not to eat hurriedly.
But he can't seem to fix it.
Also, he's distracted when eating.
You said he takes after you. Did you spill food when you were a child...
and sounded like a pig grunting?
I don't remember.
(My goodness.)
When you can't find things,
you always suspect your eldest son.
He steals some coins from me...
- since he was younger. - I see.
In fact, both of them steal.
- Your second son does it too? - Yes.
- My second son... - Then you should scold them both.
- In fact, I can't do that. - "In fact..."
- My second son... - "In fact, I can't do that."
I don't know why, but I have a soft spot for him.
I see.
- Your husband... - He discriminates for no reason.
Your husband explained...
why he treats the kids differently. Do you understand him?
No.
- Not at all? - Not at all.
What can't you understand?
Our eldest son was also...
- once our second son's age. - He was once five years old.
But he scolded our eldest son when he was only five.
He scolded him so harshly. And when he scolds him,
his body is shaking, and his eyes...
look like he is going to kill his own son.
He yells at him. And when he's uncontrollably angry,
he drags our son into a room.
- He never hits him, but... - It must be terrifying.
But since he looks so scary, our kid became intimidated.
- Right. - Right.
Our oldest son is more athletic and smarter...
than our second son. There are so many things to compliment on.
- The oldest son? - Yes.
When my husband strokes his hair while complimenting,
- my son becomes frightened. - My goodness.
- That's wrong. - He's intimidated.
- He surely is intimidated by him. - Yes.
(He must be very scared.)
I know that I get angry with him often,
but deep down, I'm proud of my son.
- But... - Do you compliment him for being...
smart and athletic?
I do. But...
I don't do it that often so he doesn't know.
He doesn't know that you're complimenting him?
No.
- Do you whisper to him? - When I try to stroke his hair,
he runs away. And when I try to compliment him,
he cuts me off and talks to my wife.
- You said you're proud of him now. - Right.
Did you resent him in the past?
Yes, I did.
- Why? - Why?
I have an older brother.
He's completely the opposite of me.
He was always reliable and hardworking.
As for me, I was a troublemaker.
My father would always scold me...
and say that I was being a bad example...
to my older brother.
I started working part-time ever since I was in middle school.
I earned my own allowance,
but my parents always gave my brother money.
My eldest son's actions...
reminded me of my old self,
so I used to resent him often.
If you didn't receive such love,
wouldn't you want to give that love to him?
It was easier said than done since I never received it.
I didn't really know how to show it.
(You should at least try.)
I'm sorry for asking this, but how old were you...
- when you got married? - He was 25.
- 25? - I see.
- He was young. - They got married young.
You must've not been prepared.
Yes, and we had our first son almost immediately.
After his first birthday, I went to Pohang.
I guess you didn't have that period of raising your son,
seeing him grow,
- and having a bond with him. - That couldn't happen.
I was too busy making a living.
How old were you back then?
- We're 4 years apart. - Then you were 21?
- I'm four years older. - Are you older?
Oh, you're older than him?
Today's episode is a special on older women and younger men.
Yes, please stay tuned.
(They laugh out of an agreement.)
It seems like he went through a lot of stress back then.
I do understand that, but it's still an excuse.
He was never consistently working.
After working for six months, he'd become exhausted.
He used to quit every six months.
Also, although he's younger than me,
and the head of the household, I couldn't lean on him.
He relied on me.
I was taking care of him all the time.
It was as if I had two sons.
It was hard for me.
(He was more like a son than a husband.)
To be frank, the kids are more important at the moment.
- Let's hear from them. - Yes.
Hello.
Hello, I'm Lee Re. I'm 11 years old.
- Lee Re? What a nice name. - Lee Re.
Hello, I'm Lee Yul. I'm 9 years old.
- Lee Yul. - Lee Yul.
- They're so cute. - Do you have any worries...
about your dad?
(Is what his mom said true?)
No.
(He disagrees.)
- Really? - I'd like to talk to the dad.
We've arranged this stage for you.
(They need to communicate.)
Tell him that he can be honest.
- Promise that you won't get mad. - What was that?
(He agrees.)
What was that?
I think he twisted his finger a bit too much while doing that.
(That's not true.)
Are you disappointed and sad that your dad...
takes care of your siblings more?
- Yes. - He's warmer towards them.
Yes.
(Poor kid.)
When do you feel that way?
When he secretly gives my brother money.
- You're the most disappointed then? - But...
how did you find out if he gave it secretly?
My brother bragged in front of me.
- He bragged? - He bragged?
He bragged in front of him?
Yul bragged to you?
Do you think your dad loves him more than you?
Yes.
Are you sad about that?
I'm not too sad.
(He's all grown up.)
Is there anything else than money?
When do you feel like he loves your brother more?
I hit my brother because he teased me,
but my dad only got mad at me.
You did it because he teased you.
How do you feel during those times?
I want to beat him up.
- He does the same thing to him. - Right.
He does exactly what his dad does to his brother.
How did he tease you?
He called me nicknames that my dad made for me.
- What is your nickname? - Reckless.
- What? - Reckless.
- Reckless. - Reckless.
- It's a cute nickname. - It is.
- Reckless. - Reckless.
- That's cute. - Then...
- That's interesting. - I'm his older brother,
but he keeps hitting my head.
(My brother hits my head.)
(He knows it's not right.)
That's not right.
Why didn't you tell your dad that your brother teased you first...
- and that's why you hit him? - I did tell him that,
but he told me to just hold back. So I was frustrated.
Were you ever disappointed in him when you were eating?
Yes, he tells me not to watch TV while eating,
but he watches it.
(He doesn't keep his own word.)
- Goodness. - That's ridiculous.
- That was hilarious. - Goodness.
- Lee Re... - Dad doesn't show good examples.
(Who's the adult here?)
Have you ever stopped yourself from crying...
because you were scared that he'd get mad?
- Be honest. - Have you?
- Yes. - Goodness.
- I hit my knee on the desk. - Oh, no.
I had a big wound.
He asked me if I was okay,
and I said yes.
Were you more afraid of getting scolded by him?
Yes.
(He would rather get hurt than getting scold by him.)
Yul, do you have any worries?
Yes.
(You do?)
What is it?
My dad hits my brother hard,
but he doesn't do that to me.
- That's a worry? - Yes.
- He feels bad for his brother. - Right.
- He feels bad. - He feels terrible for his brother.
Would you like your dad to hit you hard as well,
or would you like him to be soft on both of you?
I want him to be soft on us both.
- He's smart. - He is.
You're so mature and kind.
So why did you tease your brother?
(Why did you tease and hit him?)
Why did you hit him on the head?
I've never done that.
My little brother always hits him on the head.
- Your little brother? - Yes.
- He's 2 years old. - He's 2 years old.
Hold on. Who's lying right now?
(Who is the liar?)
- Re, what's going on? - What is this?
Yul hits him.
He's not afraid of him.
It's because he knows that his dad favors him over his brother.
(He knows that he has his dad's love.)
How would you like your dad to change?
(Is he happy receiving all of his dad's love?)
I wish he'd like all three of us.
Right, you want him to like you the same.
Did you hear that?
I feel betrayed.
Yul told me not to give Re any allowance.
But now, he's changing his words.
Goodness, Yul.
(He had it all planned out.)
When Re hits puberty,
- their relationship might worsen. - Exactly.
- That's the issue. - I'm worried about that.
As he gets older, he becomes awkward in front of his dad.
Every time my husband talks to him, Re is afraid that he'd get mad,
so he frantically calls for me.
When that happens, I scold my husband.
I tell him not to get mad at our son.
When I do that, Re smiles.
- Why? - Because I'm scolding him.
(It makes him happy.)
He thinks it serves him right.
Yes, he enjoys watching me scold him.
- Goodness. - Since she's older than me,
she's kind of like a scary mom.
She's like Xena, the warrior princess.
She nags me a lot too.
She tends to talk down to me in front of our kids.
I want to communicate with him, but he's not really there.
- For example, he watches TV. - You can't have a conversation.
We can't...
- communicate. - There's no bond.
No, there's absolutely no bond.
After he gets scolded by you,
does he vent to his kids?
- It goes straight to Re. - Right.
Since he doesn't want to listen to me,
he shouts and tells Re to clean his room.
- Suddenly? - Yes, he does that.
Re is getting all the hate.
It wasn't always like this.
- Every time I talk to her, - I'm sure there's a reason for it.
she says that I'm lying or that I'm making an excuse.
My job is physically demanding.
I have to go around and give out my business cards.
But she says that I'm wasting gas on the streets...
and tells me to stay put at home and eat.
She says that there's no point in my going out.
- Hold on, ma'am. - You guys should switch seats.
He seems upset.
- He has many things to say. - I know.
Lee Re.
Have you ever seen your parents fight?
- Yes. - How does it make you feel?
I feel sorry.
- What? - You feel sorry?
(Why is he sorry?)
- You feel sorry? - You feel sorry?
- Yes. - Why?
I feel like they're fighting because of me.
So that's what he thinks.
(Re has been blaming himself for his parents' fighting.)
During your entire life,
when were you the most mentally exhausted?
My mother was sick for about four months.
During that time, no one else could take care of my baby.
And my husband wasn't there either.
So with my mom by my side...
and my baby on my back,
I carried our luggage into the bus.
(She had to take care of everyone.)
Just thinking about it upsets you.
I did that. After four months, she passed away.
(Her mother passed away after 4 months.)
And...
when my mom passed away,
my husband was...
too immature.
Some of my female friends...
missed the funeral, so they visited us at home.
I don't even know what my husband was thinking.
My friends came to offer their condolences,
but my husband wanted to go on a picnic.
(He wanted to go on a picnic.)
(What was he thinking?)
I thought he'd give up if I told him I wasn't going.
But he even rented a car and went with them.
(He left his wife at home.)
When I was pregnant with our second child,
those friends visited us again.
- I was sensitive around that time. - How many months?
We went to the beach,
and they put sunscreen on each other.
(He put sunscreen on his wife's friends.)
I didn't think too much.
I didn't know...
it'd hurt my wife's feelings.
- You put sunscreen on them? - Yes, on the back.
Try to put yourself in her shoes. What would you feel...
if your wife put sunscreen on your friends?
I wouldn't sit back.
Right?
You'd punch them, right?
Why didn't you think about that?
(Why didn't you try to understand your wife?)
Well, what do you think?
What are you most worried about?
- What are you worried about? - I'm worried our first son...
and my husband will stop talking.
(Her husband and their first son might stop talking.)
Also, our second son will keep looking down on his elder brother.
I'm worried our third child will do the same.
When our first son gets married, since he's never been loved,
he might not be able to love his own children.
(It might be handed down to the next generation.)
But you must sometimes have felt proud of your first son.
(When were you proud of your first son?)
Last year, there was a provincial track and field.
In third grade, he represented Pohang.
He went out as a representative. He didn't even practice much,
but he came in second place.
(2nd place in the province contest)
In the whole province?
Yes.
Second place in the province?
Why don't you...
Give your son a hug.
Hold your microphone in your right hand.
Put your arm around your son.
- Keep your arm there. That's nice. - Of course.
(It's big progress.)
What else?
He started training taekwondo only recently,
but he is already one of the demonstrators.
He also won another track and field meet lately.
(He came in 1st place.)
Did your dad cheer for you when you entered the competition?
- Yes. - He did?
How did you feel?
- I felt proud. - You felt proud.
(I felt proud.)
He felt proud.
All the other kids came...
with other students,
but I had my dad cheering for me. I was happy.
(That's how you begin.)
- Lee Re. - Yes?
Do you think your dad loves you?
- I think he loves me. - How do you know that?
How?
You know he loves you even though he doesn't show it?
- Yes. - Okay.
That's the instinct.
- Of course. - He must feel so much pressure.
Aren't you surprised?
- He knows you love him. - Yes.
I'm a little surprised.
I'm getting emotional too.
Do you love him?
(Do you love your son?)
Of course.
What does Lee Re mean to you?
Can you tell us how much you love him?
(He starts crying.)
(His sincere tears touch his family.)
(I wasn't going to cry.)
Why didn't you just stay bad until the end?
- Of course. - I mean...
Of course, he loves his son.
(Today...)
(we realize the dad's love.)
You should still tell Lee Re for him to know.
Tell him how much you love him.
(Please express it with words.)
I love you. I love you so much.
(They share the warmth.)
(The audience gives the dad a round of applause.)
Also,
since you took up the courage,
can you also apologize to your son for a few things?
(Apologize as well.)
I'm sorry I suspected you without...
really knowing what happened.
I know you hit your brother because he teased you.
I'm sorry I scolded you first.
I'll...
(He finally acknowledges his son's feelings.)
I'll say "I love you" and "I'm sorry" more often.
- Oh, my. - How nice.
That's great.
Good job.
(We cheer for you.)
Lee Re, are you going to talk to your dad...
when something bad happens?
- Yes. - Okay. Lee Re,
have you ever told your dad about your girlfriend?
No.
- Are you going to from now on? - What?
(It means no.)
- All right, you brat. - It's okay.
(You already have secrets.)
Say something to your husband.
Honey, thank you.
I'll try to stop nagging.
It's been 11 years. We moved to Pohang with no money.
We went through a lot and cried a lot.
[VIU Ver] E406 Hello Counselor "Forgive Before You Regret" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Let's live happily together for the rest of our lives.
I love you.
(I love you.)
Oh, my.
- Let's vote. - Do you think it's a worry?
- Do you think it's a worry? - I think it's a worry.
I'm worried the father and son...
will stop talking altogether.
I think it's a worry.
I'm sure every family that has more than one child...
experiences this problem.
You can solve everything by expressing your feelings.
"No words needed" is just something people say in a commercial.
People don't know unless you say it.
If you think it must be a worry for the wife,
please press the button.
(Please send us your worries about yourself, family, and friends.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - "Two-faced Husband". Let's see.
All right.
Did it get more than 100 votes?
- It's over 100. - How many out of 200?
"Two-faced Husband".
It's 145.
(145 votes)
"Please Apologize Publicly".
Someone wants an apology.
Hello, I'm a man in my 30s...
living in Gwangju.
I have a sister who is six years younger than me,
and she drives me crazy.
"Do you know what time it is?"
"You're an hour late."
- It's Gwangju. - That's a Gyeongsang dialect.
That's a Gyeongsang dialect.
What's with your dialect?
Did they just move there from Gyeongsang Province.
Show him. "Do you know what time it is?"
"Do you know what time it is?"
- "Do you know..." - The thing is,
they're trying to speak a standard dialect.
- "Do you know what time it is?" - What are you talking about?
(Do you know what time it is?)
What's with you?
- "Do you know what time it is?" - Good.
"You're an hour late."
"What's the big deal?"
"The whole family has been waiting."
"So what? Why would you yell at me?"
My sister never acknowledges her fault.
(Why?)
How much younger is she?
"I'm sorry I yelled,"
"but you shouldn't have been late."
"Do I have to say 'Sorry' to my family?"
She never says she is sorry.
Our mother tells her,
"It's your fault. Apologize to your brother."
But my sister says, "Why do I have to do that?"
Gosh, this is so awkward.
(He can't deny it.)
"Apologize to your brother."
Gosh, this is weird.
(He is especially bad at Jeolla dialects.)
(I'm burning up.)
Gosh, this is weird.
(You can do this.)
Why is it so hard for her to say she is sorry?
I can't stand it anymore.
Today...
I want to hear her say she is sorry.
- All right. - That's the story.
- The stories are related. - I know.
The dad in the previous story never apologized...
- to his son either. - Exactly.
He never said he was sorry.
But if someone apologizes in a silly way, it's even worse.
Some people even mimic comedians.
"Sorry, sorry, Myanmar."
- It's Park Sung Kwang. - Some people do that.
Show us again.
"Sorry, sorry, Myanmar."
If someone does that...
- "Myanmar"? - "Bye, bye, Dubai."
That too.
That kind of apology makes you feel bad.
(It's funny.)
Let's meet the brother who is concerned about his sister...
who never says "Sorry".
Please come out!
(Who is concerned about his sister who never says "Sorry"?)
(Han Seong Pil)
I'm sorry you have to sit uncomfortably.
- We're sorry. - We're sorry.
- We're sorry. - It's okay.
I'm sorry I'm so heavy.
I should have lost some weight.
- I'm sorry my head is so big. - We're sorry.
I'm sorry my eyes, nose, and mouth are so cramped together.
(Let's start by apologizing.)
You want your sister to apologize to you like this.
Yes.
She never says she is sorry.
When we have a family gathering,
she is always 15 to 40 minutes late.
If she tells us beforehand,
we could start eating first or something.
But she says, "What's the big deal if I'm a bit late?"
She asked if she really needs to apologize to the family.
Do you live separately?
My sister comes home every weekend.
Sometimes, I hate the sight of her.
But I feel bad about her taking a bus or a taxi...
- You feel bad. - at night alone.
So I pick her up after work.
- You pick her up? - Yes.
- I pick her up. - Since it's late.
In front of her house,
there is a police camera that takes photos of illegally parked cars.
- I'd tell her when to come down. - She should be punctual.
I leave after giving her a call.
She's not outside.
Then the camera will take a photo of your car.
- I call her and ask where she is. - "Where are you?"
- "Where are you?" - "Where are you?"
I get upset. But when she gets on the car,
- she says, "Let's go." - "Let's go"?
- It's a dialect. - "Let's go."
- "Let's go." - "Let's go."
- "Let's go now." - "Let's go."
I thought she wanted to go to a store.
But she never apologizes.
Has your sister never apologized then?
When she was younger, she used to apologize.
She worked at a call center for a year.
I think she got really stressed out there.
It changed her personality.
At the time, I tried to be understanding...
because she's tired.
Years passed since she quit that job, but she can't get back...
to how she was in the past.
- You want her to change. - Perhaps she's sorry,
but she can't express it.
- No. That's not the case. - That's possible.
She's got these eyes.
She's got these eyes. Your sister wouldn't do that?
- I wasn't even done. - "I know my sister well."
Her eyes say, "I have no intention of apologizing."
Her eyes are filled with spite.
Does your sister do a lot of things to apologize for?
She does a lot of bad things.
I am running a cell phone shop.
She worked with me for about seven months.
She was often late to work, and she slacked a lot.
- That's a professional term. - That's bad.
She said she was going to go to a bathroom,
but she didn't come back for an hour.
Did she go to Seoul?
I told her to hurry back...
because there were many customers, and I couldn't cover for her.
- "Cover". - I told her to come back.
- "Cover". - "Where are you?"
Where was she?
There's a clothing shop on the floor above.
- My goodness. - She was playing there.
(She was hanging out at the clothing shop upstairs.)
Sometimes, customers leave their phones because they're busy.
I asked my sister to process documents...
while I deliver the phone.
She should show a reaction when I say that.
But she just sat quietly and looked at her phone.
I couldn't believe it, so I called her name.
When I did, she suddenly shouted, "What is it?"
(What is it?)
I couldn't believe it.
I was the one who should be upset. Why was she upset?
(I am the one who should be upset.)
Does she only do that to you?
Or does she treat other family members badly too?
My parents got divorced when we were young,
so my father doesn't live with us.
I live with my mother and my sister.
I don't know if she treats Mother badly too. I haven't seen it.
But because my sister and I...
often fight over these,
Mother gets really stressed out in the middle.
- She would get stressed. - It must be tough for her.
That's the worst thing children can do to a parent.
Let's meet his sister who doesn't apologize. Hello.
- Hello. - Welcome.
Hello.
You have a beautiful smile.
- I know. - Look like you'd apologize well.
- She has a lovely face. - According to phrenology,
I think she would be apologizing all the time.
- Her face is apple-shaped. - Her face is apple-shaped.
Do you understand your brother's worry?
I understand, but...
I was actually going to...
send a letter here first.
- For what? - Her position is different.
My brother and I...
get upset over completely different things.
I like to avoid conflict...
as much as I can.
In his case,
he cares about every little thing.
He always makes sure to pinpoint those.
He is very sensitive about things.
Do you think your brother is obsessing over...
the phrase "I am sorry"?
He's very obsessed.
(He's very obsessed.)
- Very much. - He annoys me...
until I apologize to him.
By the way,
if you are constantly late to a family meeting,
you do harm to not only your brother but also the others.
Shouldn't you be sorry about that?
I am late like that...
when I have a previous appointment.
In that case, I tell either my brother or my mother...
that I will be going to the family meeting after the appointment.
Do I have to say it again that I am going to be late?
- They are different. - They are completely different.
- Right? - You used to...
work with your brother too. Was he...
being sensitive even then?
He had to go outside, so he woke me up.
So I said okay.
I answered, and I sat up.
So he could go and do what he needed to do.
But he called my name 2, 3 times...
- until I answered again. - "Soo Kyung."
- "Soo Kyung." - "Soo Kyung."
- Honestly, when people are... - "What?"
That's what happened.
You told him you were going to a restroom...
and went to a clothing shop. You spent an hour there.
You could say sorry lightly to him.
I didn't go there to hang out.
You said you were going to a restroom.
if you become close to other business owners around you,
you can exchange information easily.
It helps sales.
- That's why I went there. - If your intention...
was so good, you could've...
told your brother that you were going outside for business.
That clothing shop was on the way to the restroom.
- Your eyes met. - So I just dropped by to say hi.
- But she started talking to me. - "Come on in for a while."
That's what happened.
If he was your friend, not a brother,
would you apologize?
When I am with friends or other people,
problems like these don't arise.
Even if there are problems, I talk to people...
and solve the problems in an amicable way.
What she means is that you are too sensitive.
Since when have you liked the expression "I am sorry"?
(Why do I feel like I lost?)
- I... On Tuesdays... - I'm sorry, but drink some water.
His eyes became so much bigger.
- They keep getting bigger. - Why don't we meet their mother?
Let's meet their mother...
and talk to her.
My goodness. It must've been so hard for her to be in the middle.
Honestly, who do you sympathize with more?
Honestly, it's half and a half.
- Half and a half? - Yes.
- My son is... - Isn't it...
a bit too sensitive.
If my daughter...
apologizes, the situation would be over in 10 minutes.
But because she doesn't,
they fight all night long.
- All night long? - I'd be too lazy.
They stay up all night fighting.
I want to cover my ears and just die.
You should come here.
- It's crazy. - It gave me such a hard time.
Between the two, who are you more like?
Half and a half.
I just have two kids.
- She likes half and a half so much. - Ma'am.
- I am neutral. - Why always half and a half?
(It must be really hard for you.)
Why do you think your daughter gets into trouble only with your son?
My son is inflexible.
In what ways?
When you dine out,
a restaurant staff can make a mistake.
- He can't allow it. - "Apologize."
- He needs to hear the apology. - He always points it out.
When you ask for more side dishes, they refill the side dishes.
- Yes. - This person threw the plate.
- The staff was rude. - Yes.
The plates clanged.
- They were going crazy. - They clanged not just once...
- but many times? - It...
- It offended you. - It offended me.
That's offensive.
"Why do I have to be treated like this when I am paying?"
The plates didn't clang that much.
- Not that much. - They clanged once.
- Yes. Just once. - Like this.
It sometimes happens when you serve food.
- The plates might have slipped. - Right.
(They might argue all night again.)
Don't you think you are inflexible?
There is...
a line in my head.
When someone crosses that line, I make sure to say something.
Even my friends joke about it.
Sometimes you see tuned cars with...
- covered wheels. - Right.
My friends said I was like those wheels.
They are completely blocked.
So even your friends know that.
After I close my shop,
I work as a driver at night.
- You work hard. - You are diligent.
- Some people look down on me... - Some people do.
and yell curse words at me.
I could just take it,
but I don't want to drive such a person safely to his house.
- Do you make him get off the car? - No, I am the driver, so I get off.
(Right.)
- Right. - It's not his car.
- Can you do that? - It's not his car.
He's the driver. It's not his car.
He can't just take the car with him.
He's not a taxi driver.
You don't need to hear an apology. You can just get off the car.
- That's the right thing to do. - I agree.
- I wouldn't like it. - Some people curse at drivers.
(Is it all bad to be inflexible?)
You should be saying sorry,
but because of all the feelings piled up inside, you don't.
Do you have a lot of built-up resentments?
We are six years apart.
When I was younger, I was scared of him.
Whenever I did something slightly wrong,
he said to me, "Are you mad? Do you think you did well?"
"Do you want to die?"
So I used to always just apologize first.
Because Mom knows that he's hot-tempered,
she always told me to just end the situation fast.
He's so inflexible.
I think that's how it began.
Were you an authoritative brother?
Yes. I admit to that.
My mom always told me, as well as my sister.
They told me I should change my personality.
So I changed before serving in the military.
- What changed? - My attitude towards my sister.
I don't explode like I used to.
Come here, Soo Kyung. Let's talk.
- You changed your personality? - Yes.
That's what I do now.
"You and Mom told me I should change,"
"so I did."
"So why aren't you changing?"
Then she said she and I are different.
She told me not to force my way of thinking to her.
That continued,
and bitterness grew.
It kept repeating.
Do you think you have unconsciously been resenting your sister?
Yes. Honestly, when we were young, our father...
used to abuse me verbally and physically.
But he never cursed at my sister. He never hit her.
And my sister used that to her advantage.
When we were younger, it was popular for couples to get matching toys.
She asked me to give her the toy.
And I refused because my girlfriend and I had gotten matching ones.
She told Dad about it.
- My goodness. - Dad came to me and said,
"You are a boy. Why are you playing with a stuffed toy?"
Did he tear it?
- "You are a boy." - Oh, dear.
He took it from me and gave it to my sister.
It happened many times,
and it made me resent her.
Being treated unfairly affected you deeply.
- It did. - You felt...
that your father treated you unfairly.
(It was really tough for him.)
I used to think only my brother was hurt.
But when I thought about it again after growing up,
I realized I had been hurt too.
Whenever he came home after drinking,
he became aggressive.
And he always abused my brother.
So my mom often took my brother...
and stayed away from home.
As a result, I was left alone at home.
It must've been hard when you were alone.
(She couldn't avoid...)
The wound is still there.
(She couldn't avoid the scary situation.)
(She's sad.)
(His sister was hurt badly too.)
I was in elementary school at the time.
I didn't cry.
I knew Mom was coming back.
So I wanted the house...
to be clean when Mom comes back.
So you cleaned.
So I waited for Mom while doing the house chores.
When I grew up, I felt bad...
for my young self.
- Right. - That's understandable.
When you are young and your parents fight,
even if you are not hit,
- you get anxious. - Of course.
You get anxious.
(She must've been scared and anxious.)
Did you know about how your daughter felt?
I didn't know the details.
I am so sorry to her. It breaks my heart.
- Of course. - You are her mother.
Of course, I was worried about my daughter too.
But my son was abused too much.
So I took my son and ran away from home.
One day, my daughter talked to me while crying.
She asked why she always have to apologize to her brother.
She asked why I only care about her brother.
That really broke my heart.
I hugged her and cried my heart out.
I will feel sorry to my daughter forever...
about that.
My son supports me,
and my daughter comforts me.
She comforts you.
Her son supports her.
(You know how much I love you, right?)
(Their mother can't live without them.)
I was able to live on because my son supported me...
and my daughter comforted me.
How could I not love both?
- Of course. - I love them both the same.
(Each of them has a different wound and a different reason.)
Of course. Of course.
Hearing your story, I feel heartbroken,
but I envy you as well.
I have neither the support nor the comfort.
Beef supports you, and pork comforts you.
(Hey!)
Right?
It's the other way. Pork supports her, and beef comforts her.
- All right. - How can you keep eating beef?
(I am lonely.)
(The tears stop.)
Did you know about how your sister felt?
It's my first time to hear about it.
- You didn't know. - That's good.
My skin got torn everywhere because of the beating.
When we came back home after running away,
she always welcomed us with a smile.
"I cleaned the house."
I was young too at the time,
so even that annoyed me.
That's understandable. She never got beaten.
It's my first time hearing about how she actually felt at the time.
(He never knew his sister had such a wound.)
(He becomes sorry.)
- He's sorry now. - Yes.
They say parents' fight to a young child...
is as scary as a war.
But what's more painful is...
watching her two children whom she love the most fight.
- Right. - Watching that,
she must feel scared and hurt.
When they don't talk, they don't talk for a month.
- For a month. - The fight drags on...
for a long time.
I am worried that they might stop talking to each other for good.
I am the youngest of four children.
I thought I knew my siblings well.
But we had been away from each other for so long.
I kept judging them based on what I've seen...
when we were young.
I didn't acknowledge the fact that they have changed.
What I regret the most is this.
Before Mother passed away,
we never got to show her how amicable we are.
She passed away without seeing that,
- and I regret it so much. - Of course.
You should always remember that.
You will regret it so much one day.
(They should think about how painful it would be for their mother.)
Do you want to hear your sister's apology...
because you want to hear your father's apology?
It was clearly Father's fault.
But he never admitted that he did something wrong.
He never apologized.
(That's why.)
That's why I am obsessed with apologies.
I admit that.
- That's understandable. - What worries me is this.
I think if she gets into such troubles at work...
and with her husband,
it will be different from having troubles with the family.
The consequences will be big.
(I thought it was going too well.)
She should acknowledge what's wrong...
and apologize.
I want that because I am genuinely worried about her.
But I feel the same.
That's what I thought.
(The two siblings are fighting again.)
That's what I thought.
(Can we go home today?)
If he gets married,
- Right. - he'd run into the same problem.
I think he wants apologies for the smallest things.
His wife might get too worn out.
He meddles with things and forces people into things.
He's very sensitive about me seeing anyone.
- That's possible. - I can have impromptu meet-ups.
But if I don't tell him my schedule ahead of time,
he gets really upset.
Sometimes you miss calls.
He calls until I pick up.
- He calls... - How many calls?
If I don't pick up the 1st time, he calls 3, 4 times.
How do you meet your boyfriend?
If I start talking to someone,
he asks what kind of a person he is,
how far we've gotten...
"How far you've gotten"?
- Hey! I am sorry. - He asks...
such questions.
- It's uncomfortable. - Of course, it is.
- Yes. - It's very uncomfortable.
- Right. - When we actually start...
seeing each other, he imposes a curfew.
A curfew?
"You meet every day."
"What's there to talk about so much? Why do you like him so much?"
- Her mother cracked up. - He says he can't understand it.
He tells me to meet my boyfriend once in every two days.
(It's not easy to follow that.)
How can you follow that rule?
How can you meet once in every two days?
There's something I want to say about that.
When my sister gets married,
I will be the one to walk her down the alley.
I think I have to play the father's role for her.
My sister has the lowest stamina ever.
When she comes home after a date,
she can't function at work the next day.
She dozes off.
Let's stop there.
They watch night movies.
Of course.
You might get into the details.
Mom was there when I said this.
I said to her that she could meet him every day...
for 365 days if she has the strength.
When I said that, she said she'd meet him every other day.
- Every other day. - That's what she said.
One day, they met 2 to 3 days earlier than the scheduled date.
- They got an advance. - They got an advance.
- "You said it was in two days." - You were checking.
"You said it was in two days."
She said they met early. If they met early...
If they met for 3 straight days, they shouldn't meet for 3 days.
- They still met again. - He is very inflexible.
- They didn't take days off. - They didn't.
(He is very flexible.)
- He's completely inflexible. - He's inflexible.
Completely inflexible.
Where's the door?
- They met for three days... - It's a worry for his sister.
- She's the one who's frustrated. - I know.
When you meet for 3 days, you shouldn't meet for 3 days.
How would you feel if you were her?
I'd hate it so much.
I...
I would hate it even if my dad did that.
You'd hate it even when your dad does it.
- Don't you... - Do you meet...
- have a girlfriend? - your girlfriend every other day?
(He gets speechless.)
I don't have a girlfriend now.
If she's strong enough, it wouldn't matter.
I don't say anything about it now since we don't work together.
I think you are trying too hard to play the father's role.
It would be a little different if you act more like her brother.
- A comfortable brother. - A comfortable brother.
A close brother. Like a close friend.
What do you want your brother to do...
to admit to your faults and to apologize to your brother?
I want him to stop talking so oppressively.
If he talks to me nicely and calmly,
I would apologize if I have done anything wrong.
It's not that I haven't tried it.
(The brother and sister's conflict begins again.)
I wouldn't be here if it worked.
You talked to her calmly and quietly?
- We work at the store together. - Right.
Just as I told you, she dozes off instead of working.
And the next day, she goes out to see her boyfriend.
And then she dozes off at work.
Are you talking about it again? All right.
If you think of it from your perspective,
you must think your sister was wrong and you did it for her sake.
But if you really care about her,
you wouldn't have blamed her for being late.
You could've tried to understand her and circled around instead.
But you have never tried it before.
You only judge her right or wrong.
Just like you were afraid of your father,
your sister might've been afraid of you when she was little,
and she hasn't overcome that yet.
You're saying you let her free,
- but you're still judging her. - Right.
Your sister can feel like she's locked up in prison.
(Let's try together.)
- Say a word to your sister. - Okay.
I express my feelings to you.
I want you to tell me...
how you really feel too.
So that I can understand you if you have...
different thoughts. If you don't tell me,
there's no way I could understand what you think.
So please tell me how you feel from now on.
You have to try not to be sulky...
- talk about your feelings. - That's right.
If you think you did something wrong, but you don't remember,
tell your brother at the end of the month,
"I'm sorry for what I did wrong this month."
- Like a monthly report? - That's right.
Call your brother with a smile and say let's get along well.
(Awkward)
Seong Pil. I'm not exactly a friendly type.
Seong Pil, you should smile at her too.
(Smiling)
You should smile too if you want her to smile at you.
(That's good. Smile when you talk to her.)
Even when I did something wrong,
I was stubborn. I didn't apologize to you to the end.
I'm sorry about that.
From now on...
let's make efforts together...
to get along well with each other.
Great.
- I hope you two will get along. - Right.
(We hope they don't blame each other anymore...)
(and become more considerate of each other.)
- Boom, do you think it's a worry? - Yes?
I hope they'll open up their hearts and communicate with each other.
- So I think it's a worry. - I see.
I think they need some time.
I hope their relationship gets stronger.
- So I don't think it's a worry. - All right.
- I don't think it's a worry either. - Ron.
I have a younger sibling who is nine years younger than me.
Because I was too strict with my younger sibling,
now we're out of touch with each other.
- He should come on our show again. - That's a great example.
You should've told us earlier.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- One. - Time's up.
Let's find out how many votes he got. Please show us the result.
(The result)
The last digit.
Did he get more than 100 votes?
(What could be the result?)
- Oh, my. - He got 68 votes.
(68 votes)
"Hold Your Head High".
- Hello. - He startled me.
I'm a girl in my 20s, and I live in Daegu.
My younger sister who turned 20 this year...
He'll play her sister too.
"Sister, do you think I'm ugly?"
"No. You're pretty."
The next day... "Sister, am I ugly?"
She's cute.
"You're pretty. Try to be confident."
But the next day... "Sister, am I ugly?"
My little sister has no self-esteem whatsoever.
Therefore...
"Shall we go downtown and hang out?"
"No."
"Then let's go to a nearby restaurant instead."
"I said no."
She coops herself up in the house all day long.
Even when I manage to take her outside...
"I think that person is looking at me."
"Come on. Hurry up."
When we eat at a restaurant...
"Please order food for me. I can't talk to them."
My little sister lacks confidence and is so introverted.
What should I do to help her?
(How should I help her?)
She has low self-esteem.
Boom has high self-esteem.
Yes. I love myself.
I constantly say good things about myself. I have a long philtrum.
But it's okay because they say it means you live a long life.
You have to keep cheering yourself up.
I do the same. It's okay to have a big head.
People with a big head have a low chance of developing Alzheimer's.
- I try to stay optimistic. - Right.
- It's important to stay optimistic. - That's right.
She's worried about her younger sister.
Please come out.
(Who has a timid little sister who lacks confidence?)
(Kang Yeon Hee)
- Welcome. - Welcome.
Why do you think your sister lacks confidence?
She has massive hang-ups about her appearance.
(It's because she has hang-ups about her appearance.)
She calls herself ugly.
She says bad things about her.
She asks me every day how ugly she is.
- She wants me... - How ugly she is?
to evaluate her.
Even the level of ugliness?
"How ugly am I?"
Please look at him while talking to him.
Does she ask you that every day?
I'm not saying this because she's my sister.
- She looks like Suzy sometimes. - Suzy?
- Suzy? - As in the area next to Yongin?
- Suzy? - Then why...
Suji is right next to Yongin.
- She was talking about Suzy. - Yes.
I know what you're trying to say.
- She looks a bit like Suzy. - She's pretty.
- She looks a little bit like Suzy. - You're so mean.
You have so much time to go out during school breaks, right?
- Yes. It's awesome. - But even during school breaks,
she coops herself in the house for 5 or 6 days in a week.
- Why? - It's because she's ugly.
She thinks putting on makeup is pointless.
- She thinks people look at her? - Why does she have low self-esteem?
One day, she had plans with her friend.
She prepared herself to go out.
She put on full makeup.
But then she checked herself in the mirror...
and canceled her plans saying she looked ugly.
(She canceled her plans because she looked ugly.)
Her plans with her friend.
It's rare to take a photo with her.
I took more photos with a friend whom I see occasionally...
than with my sister.
Even when I convince her to take a photo with me,
she covers her face or turns around.
- She turns around? - I have no photos of her face.
- What's that? - That's Iron Man.
(What is this?)
- My goodness. - She covered her entire face.
- She covered her entire face. - She covered it all.
Gosh.
No one can recognize her face.
Was she really big when she was younger?
- When she was younger? - No. She's never been fat.
- That's not the case either. - That's not the case either.
I was really fat in middle school.
- How much did you weigh? - So...
- I weighed 61kg in middle school. - Gosh.
- I weighed up to 65kg. - She weighed 61kg in 2nd grade.
In second grade?
- In second grade? - One day,
a senior student said while passing me by, "She's so big."
It bothered you, right?
I put on a cardigan to look smaller.
- After that, I walked like this. - Right.
My sister was outgoing when she was in elementary school.
She was also a school president.
- A school president? - Yes.
She learned belly dance since she was six.
- Belly dance? - Belly dance...
- requires a lot of cheerful energy. - That's right.
- You need it to move your hips. - Yes. It means she's energetic.
Since she practiced it for a long time,
she gave a solo performance many times in fifth grade.
- She performed at many events. - She was confident.
When did your sister start to behave like this?
After she started middle school, while going through puberty,
her personality changed.
- While going through puberty. - Right.
Has anything happened between her and her friends at school?
My sister was born...
with a hemangioma. There's a red spot on her forehead.
- Here? I see. - Right in the middle.
And I think her friends talked about it.
They must've said, "Hey. What's that red spot?"
- Things like this. - Yes. She got that a lot.
She said she got stressed out a lot.
- It was because of that. - That's all I know.
- I know how it feels. I used to... - Blood vessels...
It's not that serious now, but my cheeks got so red.
My face was so red that people got surprised.
I had hang-ups about it back then.
But when I started college,
I saw some students whose faces are red all day long.
They are Hwang Jung Min and Im Won Hee. Their faces were so red.
- I see. - You all enrolled in the same year.
Your sister was so shy and embarrassed...
that she couldn't even look at the staff...
- in the eye. - Really?
Let's meet her sister. Hello.
- Welcome. - Hello.
Cheer more enthusiastically.
Her voice doesn't sound so bad.
Do you want the camera to move back a little?
- It's okay. - She looks really pretty now.
- Do you like how you look? - The camera.
Well... I just want to cover my face.
- I understand. - It's okay.
What I want to know the most is... If you hate going out so much...
and can't even look other people in the eye,
how did you decide to come on this show?
I thought that I could change...
if I came on the show.
- You made the right decision. - Thanks.
We heard about the spot on your forehead, but I don't see...
- anything on your forehead. - I don't see it either.
I covered it with makeup to be on the show.
There's no reason for her to lose confidence.
- Exactly. - To help you understand,
let's see how she looks without makeup.
(There's a spot that's a little bit red.)
- Is that it? - It's a little red.
- It's a little red. - My goodness.
- It's not weird at all. - It's not so red.
- It's blurry and slightly red. - It seems okay.
- It's slightly red. - If you stay outside in the cold,
your face gets slightly red like that.
Suzy, it's okay. Oh, I am sorry.
(She bursts out laughing.)
I am sorry.
- It's okay. It's nothing. - That was natural.
Did you get stressed out because of your red forehead?
I am very self-conscious about it.
A lot of my friends have asked me...
why my forehead is red.
"I bumped into something."
- "I bumped into something." - I would make excuses like that.
When I went to the teachers' office during the break...
in middle school and high school,
they asked me "If I slept in the previous period."
They thought it was sleep mark.
Yes.
Those things added up...
and lowered my self-esteem.
You stay home five days a week.
Do you refrain from going outside...
because of your looks?
I can't meet people's eyes.
I am scared that people will think I am ugly.
- What? - That's why...
(You weren't like that in childhood.)
Ever since I was six years old,
I learned belly dancing.
When I hit puberty, I gained weight.
It stresses me out so much.
I have gone on a diet many times,
but I always go back to the original weight.
- It's the yo-yo effect. - I lose my willpower.
You lose your willpower...
in the middle.
What's your dream weight?
- You look great now. - Seriously.
How much do you weigh?
- How much do you weigh? - She isn't scolding you.
She is simply flabbergasted.
Size 44? Do you want to be size 44?
- Yes. - Size 44.
- Size 44? - Yes.
(Is size 44 the standard of beauty to her?)
(Everyone feels like it's wrong.)
What we need to focus on...
isn't whether you go on a diet or not.
We want to know why you only think...
about your appearance.
To tell you the truth, it's my dream...
to be a flight attendant.
- A flight attendant. - Yes.
How would you deal with so many passengers?
If you meet a passenger's eyes,
you would stop your life vest demonstration.
(Embarrassed)
My sister is bad at expressing herself.
When she needs to postpone...
a dentist appointment,
she can't call and express herself.
- Does she go? - She asks me to make the call.
She asks you to do that.
Even when she is mistreated,
- she can't express anger. - She can't express anger?
No.
That man from Gwangju should help her.
(Give her a lesson on expressing anger.)
If you ask for more side dishes...
and the waitress throws them, do you eat without a complaint?
- Yes. - You eat without a complaint.
When you call the dentist's office, no one sees your face.
He is right. They only hear your voice.
- That's right. - I don't know.
(What is she going to do?)
- Her friend is sitting next to her. - Yes.
What is she like?
Is she bad at expressing herself?
One time, we went to see a movie.
Before the movie, I told her that I am hungry,
so we went to the restaurant beforehand.
I found out later that she had eaten at home.
- My goodness. - My goodness.
She had a meal again with her friend.
I could have eaten a meal alone or gotten a snack.
I was apologetic and flustered.
She is too considerate.
- I know. - She can't express herself.
What worries you the most...
- as her sister? - The biggest worry.
She is a first year at the university.
She will meet new friends.
It's a festival.
- She is meeting new people, - That's right.
but she doesn't have a friend yet.
She can't eat lunch.
- She has no one to eat with. - No.
(My goodness.)
(My heart aches.)
That worries me.
Do you still go without lunch?
Yes.
- My goodness. - Do you skip lunch?
- Do you skip lunch? - I suppress my hunger...
or something.
Do you converse with your classmates?
I say hello to them.
I don't converse...
with anyone yet.
I want to talk to them, but I think,
"What should I do if they don't like me?"
- I have that thought. - You worry too much.
There was a story I received...
on my radio show...
about a timid person who couldn't express herself.
She and her boyfriend were on a bus to go on a trip.
Her boyfriend hadn't come back from the restroom.
The driver went, "Is everyone here?" But she couldn't say no.
My goodness.
- Did the bus leave like that? - Yes.
- She was too embarrassed. - She was too embarrassed.
So her boyfriend broke up with her.
Would you be able to speak up in that situation?
Your boyfriend hadn't come back from the restroom.
Well, I...
- Go on. - What is it?
(Please ask the driver to wait.)
- We are leaving. - We are leaving.
My boyfriend isn't back yet.
Can you say that?
- Yes. - Men are precious.
She needs to get a boyfriend.
(Laughing)
Seung Yeon is afraid of men.
- Why? - She is afraid of facing...
and talking to men.
Have you ever had a meal...
with a male friend?
In middle school, I was in the broadcasting club.
- The broadcasting club. - I had lunch with a male friend...
because we had time before an event.
I was worrying, "What should I do if he thinks I am ugly?"
I couldn't look him in the eye and just ate.
(She thinks about her appearance no matter what she does.)
Let's talk about something else.
We have talked about topics that bring her down.
Let's talk about her strong point not about appearance.
She can dance really well.
She can do the idol dance.
Really?
When does she practice?
She practices at home alone.
- Really? - She is okay at home.
- It's different outside. - We want to see you dance.
Would you be okay?
(Flustered)
You will challenge yourself.
That's right. Break out of your shell.
She can dance to "Ddu-du Ddu-du" very well.
- "Ddu-du Ddu-du". - "Ddu-du Ddu-du".
Everyone here is on your side. It's okay.
(She has been timid throughout the shoot.)
(Will she be able to dance in front of people?)
(Pick up your courage.)
I am glad she is coming out.
- All right. - How pretty!
"Ddu-du Ddu-du". Drop the beat!
Here she goes.
She is good.
Keep going.
Here she goes.
She is good.
Keep going.
(She is good!)
You are doing well. You are pretty.
(She captivates the crowd with her unexpected charm.)
(She works her joints.)
(She takes the spotlight.)
- Hey. - My goodness.
She didn't back out of this.
Seriously.
She didn't back out of this.
Chae Yeon, what did you think of her dance skills?
- She is good. - Right?
She twisted her joints.
Yeon Hee told us her sister dances at home.
I have never sung or danced in front of...
- my parents. - I know.
You get more embarrassed in front of your family.
Since she hasn't talked to a lot of men,
we should help her practice.
Everyone else is married.
We only have one single man.
Think of me as a friend.
We are sorry about this.
Try talking to a man. Let's practice.
- Don't lower your head. - Let's say you are eating together.
Seung Yeon.
- You must have been hungry. - Yes.
What would you like to eat? Do you have a favorite dish?
I like pizza.
- Pizza. - Yes.
Okay. Let's go and eat pizza.
Do you like Iced Americano? Shall we drink it, too?
(Thinking)
- Yes. - If you don't want to, say no.
That's right.
- Don't say yes to everything. - Hold on.
- Do you think Boom is handsome? - What do you think of me?
He is handsome.
She is good at lying, too.
(They attack Boom.)
Who said that?
Who said that? There is someone at the cafe.
(Boom livened up the atmosphere.)
She does everything she needs to do.
She converses with men, eats with men,
and dances. What does she want us to do?
You feel inferior since your standard of beauty is...
- too... - It's too high.
Do you think you have to look like Suzy...
to be pretty?
Yes.
Why do you think that?
Why do you think you are ugly?
Why do you think only people like Suzy are pretty?
To be honest, I have received...
various criticism on my looks.
When I was in middle school, one girl said,
"You will be pretty if you fix your eyes."
"You will be pretty if you fix your nose."
She told me that continuously,
so I ended up thinking, "Am I that ugly?'"
When I was in high school, one boy...
stared at me intently...
and said, "How are you so ugly?"
He said that.
- He liked you. - He liked you.
- He liked you. - No.
I didn't even know him well.
He was either someone who liked you...
or a lunatic.
Why else would he say that?
During class one time,
the topic of dreams came up.
The teacher pointed at me and said,
"Even someone like her wants to be a flight attendant."
When I heard that,
- I thought, "I'm really ugly." - It became a trauma.
- It stressed me out. - That's mean.
He must be that male student's dad.
(Refreshing)
Why did he say that?
What about your sister? Is she pretty?
Should she stay inside the house?
What do you think?
(She becomes nervous for no reason.)
She is pretty.
Right?
I don't know what her standard is.
(Serious)
I don't know what it is.
Why are you hurting Yeon Hee's feelings?
I don't know what her standard is.
- Are you sure? - Yes.
(He ended up attacking Yeon Hee.)
She hasn't broken out of her shell yet.
I think she will be better after some time.
You may be right, but there is another worry I have.
She is majoring in police administration.
- Police administration? - Yes.
- That's amazing. - She needs to be a police officer.
With that mindset, she won't be able to be one.
Let's say you have to catch a robber.
"There is no hope for someone who is as ugly as me."
"I can't show myself in front of the robber."
"What's wrong?"
"I am too ugly."
I thought you wanted to be a flight attendant.
Why did you choose that major?
To be an aviation service major,
- an interview is important. - An interview is required.
I couldn't pluck up the courage,
so I went with the recommendation of my parents and teachers.
- Police administration. - You followed their words.
Would you speak confidently if you have...
Suzy's face and body?
Of course.
- Then you would do it? - Yes.
Would you be the happiest in the world?
Yes.
It's quite scary.
When I was young, brand shoes were very popular.
Instead of judging someone by his or her mindset,
we went, "Those are brand shoes. He is wearing fake brand shoes."
- That's right. - I am worried...
she will look down on people who don't meet her standard.
This is what upsets me.
Appearance isn't everything.
Let's say there is a person who cares only about money.
"Why do I have no money?"
"Will people look down on me because I have no money?"
If you meet someone who always have those thoughts,
how would you feel?
- He would seem strange, right? - Yes. I would be frustrated.
He would seem strange. It would make no sense.
There are many important values...
- other than that. - Ron, did you only look at...
- Sagan's appearance? - No.
- You looked at her money, too. - I saw her mind... Yes.
(You looked at her money, too.)
(He said yes by mistake.)
- He looked at her money, too. - That's right.
After listening to her story, I think she and I are similar.
I haven't talked to men before I graduated from high school.
I was in the broadcasting club, too.
People always comment, "You are ugly."
"Did you get plastic surgery?" I see those comments a lot.
- I don't worry about that... - That's right.
because my husband loves me sincerely.
By being good at what I do,
- I become a valuable person. - That's right.
You should set a goal and step out.
How do you feel after hearing Sagan's words?
Her words give me a bit of courage.
I bet she is thinking, "In the future,"
"I will date a man who is 11 years younger than me."
(It's a goal.)
It's a big goal.
(I didn't say that.)
Be nice to boys who are in second grade right now.
When I saw you, I thought, "She is very charming."
But when I talked to you,
learned that you only care about appearance,
you seem less charming. To be honest.
Your appearance is perfect.
It's your mindset that needs to be fixed.
(She has a way with words.)
I said that.
(She can't help but clap.)
Congratulations. You won the Grand Award.
Thank you.
(Her words deserve the Grand Award.)
All right. When you see your sister...
the next morning, don't ask, "I am ugly, right?"
Ask, "How pretty am I?"
- Seriously. - Be confident.
- It's okay. - It's okay.
It gets easier after the first time.
How pretty am I?
(How pretty am I?)
(Glancing around)
- Yeon Hee. - Don't be flustered.
Yeon Hee. Don't be flustered.
You have an important role.
You are the prettiest.
I hope you will hone your skills and talent...
and turn them into your charms.
Your sister was worried about you.
From now on,
I won't focus solely on appearance.
- That's good. - That's good.
I will become a sister...
who can find her talent...
and act courageously.
All right.
(Proud)
- All right. - Let's start with Boom.
- I don't think it's a worry. - You don't think it's a worry.
I hope she breaks out of her shell and makes new friends.
I also don't think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
I am afraid your obsession with appearance...
will make you miss important things in life...
- and bring regrets. - That's right.
I don't think it's a worry.
I also don't think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry in her point of view,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
How many votes did "Hold Your Head High" get?
Show us the result.
Did it get over 100 votes?
It got over 100 votes.
- It's a worry. - 107 votes.
107 votes.
- 107 votes. - It got a lot of votes.
"Two-faced Husband" wins.
The winner will receive a cash prize. Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("WOOWA" by DIA)